Feb 14, 2017
Confidence and Success tend to go hand-in-hand. One can argue which of these come first, but it is still easier to instill confidence than it is to manufacture success. Since we all want our kids to grow up to be successful, we need to teach confidence at an early age. Thus, when they make a mistake we should focus on helping them to do better in the future. This is more productive than shaming them for the past.
We can see some excellent examples of this approach when we look at popular coaches and mentors. These leaders build on the positives and look for ways to overcome the negatives. They do not harp on the negatives and treat failure as a shameful or avoidable event. Failure is a part of success. However, we must learn from our failures not shy away from them or be made to feel inadequate because of them. Failure should not be a point of pride, but it also should not be an albatross around our necks. Accept that failure is a step to success. Ensure your children keeping taking those steps rather than get mired down in shame.